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The pain in being confident

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A topic that is hard to handle and even harder to explain is the everyday struggle of self confidence. An individual cannot just wake up one day and love him/herself the way he/she did before someone broke them. When I say, “someone broke them,” I mean that something happened in his/her life and suddenly he/she didn’t feel so confident in the clothes they wear on a daily basis. You might think this is a crazy and normal topic to everyone, when it really isn’t/shouldn’t be.

 

People might joke around about how they look in order to hide how they really feel. Speaking from experience I know it’s something I do quite a bit. No matter what people say about me that is positive, those few negative words have completely destroyed every aspect of me trying to love myself. Sounds crazy that a thousand positive words still don’t take care of the damage done from one experience.

 

Recently, I had another experience attacking my self confidence; this one hurt worse than the ones before. Was it because it come from someone I loved, or maybe because it was someone I thought I could come to no matter what happened? Now, I am left without that person and with a lower self esteem than normal. No, I am not here to call this person out. I am here because this is something nobody talks about. Partially because if someone doesn’t love him/herself, you cannot just give them a pep talk and tell them to love themselves and he/she be okay. They are still going to think back of the painful words that tore them away from who they are.

 

No matter what happens in life, loving yourself is not easy especially when people around you start making comments. They do say, “beauty is pain.” By pain they mean learning to overcome all of the negative and still love yourself. With my past experiences I still struggle with how I look at myself, but with positive reassurance to myself I am slowly loving myself again. My advice to all the younger kids struggling to love themselves, no matter what happens, you are strong. You are handsome/beautiful; do not doubt that for a second. Every experience you go through that makes you doubt your self confidence, I hope you come out of that situation stronger than when you entered.

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3 Responses to “The pain in being confident”

  1. Annie Daily on December 3rd, 2018 12:20 pm

    I love that you wrote abou this! It isn’t talked about, like you said and it should be. I don’t think anyone really is as confident as they should be. I know i’m not. I think people would really benefit from reading this and knowing they aren’t the only one.

  2. Eli Kirkpatrick on December 14th, 2018 1:53 pm

    I like this article! i like that you are writing to younger kids to give them confidants and I thing people reading this article with change there feelings.

  3. Madison Townsend on April 10th, 2019 1:34 pm

    I’m so glad there’s someone writing about this. It feels like this is something that goes unnoticed and everyone jokes about. Everyone deserves to love him/herself but that is one of the hardest things to do. Thank you for letting people know about this.

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